Some boilerplate advice I love. “Outdo each other with
kindness every day” is some of the best marital advice I’ve heard; while “Don’t
go to bed mad” doesn’t do it for me. Because sometimes I go to bed mad and I
wake up to a beautiful new day with a clear head and I think, “What was I so upset
about? So glad I didn’t bring that up last night.”
“Nap when the baby naps” is another one. What if I’m not
tired? What if I want to use the opportunity when the baby
is napping to spend some rare alone time doing something I want to do? The
pressure I used to feel to nap when my kids were napping made what could have
been the treasured, calm part of my day one of the more stressful.
People who give advice mean well; they want the best for
you. The problem is what’s best for one person isn’t necessarily the same for
another. In my coaching certification program we were instructed not to give
advice for this very reason. What advice is stressing you out? Can you disregard it? Who's consistently given you good advice?
My opinion? Be discerning.
